• Queenie

I Was Robbed Of My Giving Birth Experience




I remember when I was pregnant and I found out that the hospital down the street offered classes to take on breathing techniques so when you were in labor you'd know how to handle the pain of pushing a human being out of your lady part. I jumped at the chance to take this free class and to calm my anxiety.


I think its safe to say that most women think of the day when they welcome their child/children into the world especially the very first experience. We want everything to be perfect and most importantly for our child to come out healthy.


It's impossible to plan every aspect of your delivery because life is so unexpected but I was robbed of my giving birth experience and no one else should have one of the greatest experiences of their lives taken away because of money and convenience.


Yes, money and convenience.


"Giving birth should be your greatest achievement, not your greatest fear."

—Jane Weideman


I was in labor for 3.5 days and I wasn't dilating as fast as I should have been but thats because I came into the hospital simply because I didn't feel my son move for a few hours which was odd and even after purposely drinking something sugary he wasn't active. They checked me and everything was okay and he was okay as well but they decided to keep me at the hospital.


Since I had almost 2 weeks until my due date I don't understand why after 3.5 days of not dilating fast enough for the doctors (i still had almost 2 weeks left until my due date and he was moving around and everything was okay) they had me sign my life away and gave me a c-section. All the planning, breathing techniques, and looking forward to my first child being born vaginally was simply taken away. Why? because the US has one one of the highest rates for c-sections.


Doctors in many medical settings are paid more for c-sections and simply put since there is a financial incentive they'd rather do it that way. Doctors also prefer c-sections over vaginal birth because its convenient for them to schedule you for 9 AM on a Saturday so they can go on about their day instead of being in the middle of their personal affairs and getting a call to come in because their patient is in labor.


According to health24.com some doctors indicate that they choose C-sections in order to avoid damage to the woman's body, they are afraid of being sued, or because there is insufficient staff to allow for vaginal birth. According to NPR.ORG 19% of c-sections are unnecessary..I believe mine was too.


Unless a woman specifically asks for a c-section, which is her right, if she is healthy and there is no risk from giving birth the natural way then c-sections have got to stop. If you're afraid of being sued or afraid of damaging a woman body then why are you a doctor? If the hospital has insufficient staff then thats the problem of the hospital and a woman shouldn't have to suffer because of that.


C-section risks are:

Breathing problems Babies born by scheduled C-section are more likely to develop transient tachypnea

Surgical injury to the babies during surgery

Infection. After a C-section, you might be at risk of developing an infection of the lining of the uterus

Postpartum hemorrhage. A C-section might cause heavy bleeding during and after delivery.

Reactions to anesthesia.

Blood clots. A C-section might increase your risk of developing a blood clot inside a deep vein, especially in the legs or pelvic organs

Wound infection

Surgical injury- Surgical injuries to the bladder or bowel can occur during a C-section. If there is a surgical injury during your C-section, additional surgery might be needed.

Increased risks during future pregnancies. After a C-section, you face a higher risk of potentially serious complications in a subsequent pregnancy than you would after a vaginal delivery


My suggestion for women who want to avoid a c-section is to hire a doula. Hiring a doula decreases your chances of having a c-section by 26 percent! Don't induce your labor because studies show that it doubles your risk of getting a c-section. Research your doctor and look at reviews. See if the women who have left reviews complain about having a c-section. Reviews are everything! IF you use reviews for food then use it for this important moment in your life. Stay home as long as possible until your in labor (this is where I messed up! )


Overall, i'm so happy I had a healthy baby boy and I was okay after having the c-section however I encourage every woman out there to do your research to limit the chances of this happening to you if this is now how you want to deliver your child.


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Queenie-