• Queenie

She Slid In My DMs & We Met Abroad

Updated: Aug 4, 2020

Life has a way of bringing people together but in this day and age I think it’s more accurate to say that TRAVELING puts people together! I cannot tell you how many people I’ve met through social media, particularly through Instagram, over the past 12 months.

Imagine meeting someone for the very first time in a different country..how crazy would that be? Well that’s exactly how @bradthegirl and I met last August. We met in Cartagena, Colombia.

I remember it like it was yesterday, lol. I got a random message from someone and it was her and she was telling me how much she loves my Instagram page and ever since then we were always chatting because I loved her energy and I remember us telling each other that we have to meet before the year ends. Originally we planned for it to be in Detroit since I've never been there and it was a few hours from where she lived.

One power I feel like I gain as I got older is the ability to scope out good and bad energy and her energy definitely rubbed me the right way and I was determined for us to finally meet!

When I finally decided to choose Colombia as my birthday destination I sent her a message not really thinking she would actually accept the invite and go (since we had spoken about meeting domestically) but to my surprise she was so down! ahhhhh!

Fast forward to three months later and we literally met for the first time on the second day of my Colombia birthday trip. Nobody really knew it was our first time meeting and I did not speak of it being our first time until towards the end of the trip and a lot of people were so surprised because it seems like we knew each other for a long time because the vibe just flowed naturally and authentically.

Isn’t it crazy how a connection could be made with two people from two different walks of life, and from two different states? One thing that was the same though was we both had a love for travel! Travel does so much for people but besides the fact that it opens our hearts, allows us to be more open minded, teaches us how to be humble...and more...it waters connections, allows the connections to grow and bloom into something magical!

I’ve never been on the other end of the spectrum where I joined someone’s trip that I never met that she had already planned with friends. I never actually asked Brad what her feelings were towards the entire experience..was she nervous? Did she have doubts? I know she had fun and I know she loved the trip and we connected well but I had to ask her did a few specific questions and here were her responses:

Queenie - what made you want to come on the Colombia trip seeing as though u never met me and was that the first time you met someone for the first time on a trip u never met?

Brad - By the time Queenie has asked me if I wanted to join her bday trip to Colombia, we had already had many (and I do mean many) conversations via social media and texts. I didn’t really feel as if I was going to meet “new people” as we started a group chat and everyone seemed so dope! To be honest, from the first few conversations Queenie and I had we immediately tried to find ways to meet in person! So when I was invited on trip and found out I was able to go, of course I said yes! I hadn’t been to Colombia yet so of course that was a big hell yea too!

Queenie - Would you do it again? (meet someone for the first time on a trip)

Brad- I absolutely would, if I feel the energy is right. I wholeheartedly move off of vibes, and if the vibe is right, I’m all in. If the vibe is off, I hold my horses because I believe in keeping my aura free and clear. That’s even with my friends, I only move if the energy is good.

Queenie - Do think who u travel with important? What kind of travel buddy qualities do you look for and what is a no no for you?

Brad - I’m more of a loner so solo traveling will always be my go to! I get to do what I want, when I want, how I want without having to console another person. I think it’s important to travel with all types of people; meaning adventurous, touristy, those into arts and museums, those who just want to relax. I’m a combo of them all. I think we can learn something from all types of travelers. I can pretty much travel with all diff types of people but determining who is able to be in my resting space is pertinent. I’m all for meeting others even if we aren’t the same type of travel person! My one no no rule is someone going somewhere and expecting western standards to be applied. It really annoys me when travelers go to another country but have the same expectations of life and luxury as what we have in the states! I’m like, hell no, embrace the place and people for who they are and what they have cultivated.

Queenie - Did you make any preparations for if we didn't mesh.. What would u have done?

Brad- It didn’t even cross my mind that we wouldn’t “mesh well” I think because of previous conversations we had and we seemed to both enjoy the traveling experience as a whole. We are now inseparable !!! I don’t even want to know what it would have been like had we not made a connection seeing the collective had to pay for everything for me since my debit card didn’t work in the country hahaha! I think my positive mind frame didn’t even think to go negatively. I think it’s important to state that sometimes people won’t blend well and that’s okay too. If I’m in a whole other country and someone is being a “Debbie Downer” they on they own cause Ima have fun regardless; I’ll get on my solo vibe if all else fails!

I know social media can be portrayed to be a bad thing but honestly it’s what you make of it and it’s how you choose to use the platform. I choose to use the platform to share my travel experiences and to help inspire other people to travel but I also use the platform to form connections. I don’t do much in New York City aside from working and occasionally heading to the city to explore but for the most part I think social media has a bigger part in the connections that I make nowadays. Brad is just one example of the many beautiful genuine connections I’ve made throughout the past two years while being a traveler on Instagram and I cannot wait to see what the future has in store and to see how many other awesome souls I will cross paths with.

I just had to share my story and had to share how great Instagram has been for me and how traveling can connect people together in a beautiful way.

Have you ever met anyone off of Instagram on the trip? and what was your experience like? I would love to hear everyone’s opinion and experience!

I look forward meeting more travelers abroad! Just slide in my DMs like Brad did =)